Projections of self, determine relationships

3/12/05 Projections of self determine relationships.
Projections are the unconscious ways of seeing another that are an externalisation of one’s own feelings towards another. The unconscious nature of this process is what is confusing to many. This kind of process goes on in every relationship and encounter. It is just a way of perceiving that has been programmed since childhood. It is based on the type of relationship one has had with parent figures. These projections continue into old age. They are very powerful and programmed into the hard wiring of the brain to some extent. However change is possible but is only possible by recognising these as projections and not the real thing. This kind of insight can come only through working on the subconscious areas of our mind to change the programming of years of habitual ways of thinking and perceiving. This is the challenge for those involved in counselling. How does one change these projections especially the one’s that hinder or cause problems in relationships. The rebellion against father figures can be seen as a way to change the projections against authoritarian figures that instilled fear in the past generation. The rebellion against such figures maybe a way in which the masses are trying to reverse this in the next generation. Rebellion against seeing God as a father can also arise from similar negative experiences. One needs to understand these projections before one can look at change. Most people relate on the basis of their projections rather then what is real. A lot of fantasy is based on projection then what is real. Love relationships are based on projections till the reality of the relationship changes those initial loving feelings. This is the case in all new beginnings where hope and expectations give a new lease of life only to be brought down by the reality of sin and weaknesses that diminish the fantasy and destroys the dream. How powerful are projections and are the basis for the war of good and evil. This is enacted in various ways in the daily course of life. How we are fooled and then still rise up to repeat the same story throughout our lives.