VICTIM MENTALITY

A victim mentality leads to always reacting to situations and people. Your world view is tarnished as one sees oneself as a victim. You are always on guard and sensitive to situations that may result in victimisation. You don't realise that it is your perceptions that distort the situation which results in your reactions. It is like a self fulfilling prophecy. You prejudge the person or situation and therefore react accordingly. When you judge a person or situation before getting the facts then this is what happens. A bully is only a bully in a certain context. The bully maybe a victim in a different context. Therefore do not allow your victim mentality to dictate your responses. Change it by living in the know and not in the assumed. To assume is to allow any thoughts and feelings to do with your own mental state to influence what is. What is , is neutral till you judge the situation. A half glass of water can be judged as half empty or half full depending on your mental state. When you maintain a neutral position then you will be less likely to prejudge a person or situation. Many get into trouble by making false assumptions. They then have to correct themselves once they know the facts. Neutrality in relationships enables you to relate more healthily. We are all sinners and therefore why judge another when you remain judged. You only need to judge another when you are pure and sinless. This is hypocrisy. Many box themselves due to prejudging persons and situations. You only need to judge to protect yourself. This gives you a false sense of security and esteem. Each one needs to take responsibility for their thoughts and actions. Therefore stop judging others and judge yourself first.