LEAVING AND CLEAVING

It is difficult to leave and to cleave for individuals from close families. This is because what has been developed over the years from childhood is programmed into the hard wiring and anything different is experienced as alien. People who are distant from their families will find it easier to leave but cleaving becomes difficult because of their difficult childhood experiences. There are strengths and weaknesses in each but the strength of a close relationship with families of origin usually trumps the other because of the inner security from families of origin. Finally the individuals involved will have to make their own home with the resources they have. There is no value in blaming each other for what is being built is the future and not the past. The only way forward is to look up and forward and never backward. The only way to live life is in forward gear.