Relationships are important but there are good and not so good relationships. We were born into a family and we have no choice in who our parents and siblings are. However we still have a choice even in our families who we will trust and who we will keep at a distance. Friendships we can choose. Good friends are like gold as they last for life and build us up. Toxic relationships destroy and we have to say goodbye to some. Jesus chose twelve disciples yet all of them left Him when He was arrested. One even betrayed Him and got Him arrested.
Toxic relationships are difficult to change. Like an alcoholic some people become dependent on certain relationships even though they are destructive. Change is difficult and sometimes we need to hit rock bottom before we take charge. We need to be wise and not get stuck in relationships that are not helpful but hurtful. We see this in domestic violence situations where the woman repeatedly hopes that her partner will change in time. Many don't, as in most of these relationships the couple are stuck in a co-dependent relationship. One person must decide to leave the relationship for the sake of both.
God wants a relationship with us. His love is unconditional and non-judgemental. We need to cultivate our relationship with each other in a similar way. We cannot afford to continue in relationships that lack respect and love for each other. The time will come to say goodbye to some. Foster the ones that build and are dependable. We need to cultivate this in all our relationships to stay healthy. It is not an offence to leave relationships that are toxic. The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. We need to be wise in who we choose to call friends. Don' t waste your time in trying to save those who do not wish to be saved.
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