FANTASY IS NOT REALITY

Fantasy is not reality. Fantasy is a state where you dream of being in a place of your own creation. It does not entertain any possibility of being out of control. Every character in your fantasy is in your control. The outcome is predictable in that you will always win. This is your way of keeping your ego intact and not allowing it to face danger and distress. It is an escape from reality. Reality is in the now. There is no reality in the past and the future. What you thought is past. What you think is present. What is past fades into the past as a memory. Your brain can recall some of the things of the past but it can never recall everything exactly. Some of the memory will fade away into oblivion. Now is the only reality and what is real is that you are breathing and thinking now. Focus in the present enables you to be more real and in tune with the present. Being present is to be connected to what is present. Sometimes you can be here but not here. If you are in a fantasy world too much then your body is here but your mind is somewhere else. This is the fate of many who operate and live in their thoughts rather then in the present now. In relationship with others ask yourself if it is in fantasy or reality. In fantasy you form an image of the other in glowing terms and therefore see no fault. In reality that fantasy is challenged. When you see a person for the first time it is the looks that capture your attention. Then when they open their mouth you see someone else. Therefore learn to live in the present and cut yourself free from your past and future and be free.