11/1/06 In relationship with yourself, use your head, in relationship with others, use your heart.

11/1/06 In relationship with yourself, use your head, in relationship with others, use your heart.
The management of your emotions is critical to your well being. Managing your emotions is the key to success in every area of your life. This is primarily true in managing your feelings in response to your own thoughts. Your thoughts fire up your feelings and this then sends you downhill confused and distraught. The way to manage your feelings then is to use your head and not your heart. Your heart is helpless in this situation because it is confused and lacks direction. Your head has to come to the rescue and enable yourself to distance from your feelings and take direction to help you come out of it. Therefore if you feel rejected then your head has to take a step back and analyse where this feeling is coming from, the past, present or the devil. This enables you to observe and then to decide on the possible action. If from the past then offer it up to Jesus who will pour His love to heal those feelings. If in the present then see the rejecting person as needing help and healing. If from the devil then bind and cast him out.
In relationships it is important to listen with the heart. You are then tuning into the heart of the other. It is using your heart to tune into the other’s feelings. It is not your feeling you are dealing with but the other’s. Because it is the other’s feelings you need to empathise and not judge. Judgement comes when you use your head rather then your heart. It is easy to judge another as you only see superficially and not deeply with understanding. This is why many feel judged because especially in husband/wife relationships the husband fails to listen with his heart. Listening with the heart is the key to building relationships. This is to listen and to reflect on what the other is saying. In this way you bond with each other emotionally. Reflecting enables the other to feel accepted and in this is healing.