ALL OR NOTHING THINKING

All or nothing thinking can sometimes be useful for breaking bad habits or to reinforce good habits. In marriage it helps to cement the relationship and protect it from intrusion from others. In faith it helps commitment to the cause. Jesus was committed to face His Cross and there was no way He was going to turn back from it. In other areas this kind of all or nothing thinking can cause problems as compromise is not an option. In many areas in life one needs to compromise as long as it does not transgress your values. Transgression of values is the largest cause of disruption to everyday life. In big business and in humanitarian affairs it’s this transgression of values that causes most disruption. Therefore choose when you have to go the all or nothing way and when to compromise. Compromise is not weakness but the ability to listen and to be prepared to come half way for the larger good. In relationships outside marriage such compromises are inevitable. The level of commitment to relationships outside marriage is not as high and is usually there to perform a task. However within marriage too compromises on certain issues that do not transgress values are important to sustain the relationship. Without compromise it is difficult to accommodate to each other.